How To Add Romance Into Your Relationship With Your Partner!

When you meet that special someone, the first 6 six months is super hot and heavy. You simply can't wait to see or talk to your new lover. Sex is happening as much as you possibly can. You're still learning about each other, every date is a learning experience about the other person.

The next 6 months are crucial, you have learned a lot about the other person, now you have to decide if this is the right partner for the long term, and do you want to continue developing this relationship with this person, or simply move on to find someone else. 

The next 24 to 48 months become interesting, the relationship has usually been established, many will have entered marriage during this period. Children are starting to appear into the picture as well. Their attention for each other is now diverted to the children instead. Quality time together becomes a rare occasion. Their relationship is becoming more of a routine, and now they are beginning to take each other for granted. Sex is becoming less and less frequent.

Romance that seems to be effortless during the beginning of a couple's relationship is now fading over time. This is natural as a couple becomes more familiar with each other,  they are making less effort to romance each other. When this happens it is time for the couple to start making a conscious effort to recharge their romance, and hence their relationship as well.

Here are few ways to recharge your Romance and to enhance your relationship:

1. Remember your first date with your partner, the amount of effort you had put in, to prepare for it. The excitement you had in anticipation of your hot date with this person. Now you can plan a date with your partner to recreate your first date together all over again. Go to the same restaurant, and order the same food you did for your first date. Also, don't forget to put in the same effort you had to prepare for your first date. This definitely will recharge your romance, and will bring excitement into your relationship that was like it was in the beginning.
2. You should leave your work in the office.  When you bring work home, you are really mixing your home life and your work life.  You are also bringing frustration and stress from work to your home as well. You should not allow your work to interfere with your romance. In a good relationship, the couple can talk about how the day went at work, however, overly obsessing about work will definitely kill your relationship.
3. Tell your partner, "I love you". Make this a daily habit if possible. Although you may think that they know you love them, no one has ever tired of hearing being told "I love you" in a healthy romantic relationship. Those 3 little words simply melt hearts.
4. Create some spontaneity in your relationship. It is fun and exciting to do things or to go places spontaneously once in awhile to spice up your romance. Surprise your partner, take a day trip or weekend trip together on a whim.
5. Spend quality time together. It is very important to have some quality time alone together to reconnect and to nurture your romance and relationship. This is also a time when a couple can express their feelings to each other romantically. A night out every week will do wonders to your romance and to enhance your relationship. You should avoid any talk that has negative feelings which could lead into arguments. Do not spoil the evening, keep the conversation positive and joyful.
6. Distance makes the hearts grow fonder. Yeap, spending some time apart can actually recharge a romance. A few days apart will force you to realize how important and valuable your partner is to you. Having your own hobbies and interests can keep your life more energetic and interesting, and it will give you a chance to grow as an individual. Thus your relationship will grow as well. Spending time apart is just as important as spending time together for a balanced romantic relationship.
7. You can always give your partner flowers and small gifts for no reason at all. To show that you really care, and you still think about them all the time. Make sure you don't do the same thing repeatedly. I heard about a story of a man who gave his wife a perfume one year for Christmas.  It was such a romantic gift and she loved it.  Then every year he gave her the same gift.  After 15 years, this became a routine and was no longer romantic.
8. Lastly, and this is my favorite.  Plan and take a vacation together.  You have plenty of quality time together during a vacation, and a lot of opportunity to enjoy each other's company without the worries and stress of everyday life, and no children to look after.

Romance is just one way to let your spouse or your partner know how much you love and value them.  Sometimes it's easy to take your partner for granted and stop expressing appreciation for them.  Forgetting about romance is just one mistake many couples make.

You need to continue to grow yourself and your relationship. As the old saying goes, "when you stop growing, you are automatically dying."

As Nike's commercial says, "Just Do It".